During Ramadan, coming back to our hometown is something to look forward to! Filling our tummy with long-missed homey cuisine and seeing our whole family again is a moment that can’t be replaced.
Though everything seems nice on the surface, you may want to prepare yourself for the not-so-good comments about your life updates. Some questions are relatively private and should not be answered, but since you’re reading this article, you might as well answer them with pride!
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No Frown nor Feel Down, Tackle All These Questions with Confidence~
We got you covered, t-mates! This is the pack of unwanted questions during family gatherings that 99% will come your way. Don’t stop scrolling to know how to answer them all~
1. “Where is Your Plus One?”
This is the most common question you will get if you’re 20 and up. Having no hands to hold right now doesn’t mean you’re not wanted, t-mates!
When your aunt or uncle asks you this question, you either get to joke it out just like this:
“Where is your plus one? Why don’t you bring him?”
“He’s here, in my dreams. Xixi.”
Yup, you gotta think thoroughly for a bulletproof answer. Know that you are the captain of your choices in life, so if you decide not to have any partner this time around, say it proudly! Your relatives can’t force you to answer anything further because you stated it clearly first.
2. “Whose Child is This? You’ve Grown Up So Fast!”
When a big family meets up again after several years, changes will appear, and it is normal for one to be surprised by the changes they see. Thankfully this question doesn’t bring frowns to your face, but it might make you blush and act awkwardly around your relatives.
Our best option is to nod gracefully and re-introduce yourself, followed by a question for them, so the topic changes, not focusing on you! With that, there will be no follow-up of the unwanted questions!
“Who’s child is this?”
“It’s me, the son/ daughter of Mr A. The one that used to be very cute, do you remember?”
“Come on, you don’t remember me auntie? Guess!”
“I am A, you used to come to y our house when I was little, remember?”
3. “You Have Gained Weight, Eh?
Ugh! We all wish to avoid these hurtful and unthoughtful comments, but we can’t, t-mates. So when it comes to you, prepare yourself with these steps.
First, smile it out. They must know that any changes in your physical appearance are not a significant matter to your happiness. Second, maintain to not get all rude to them. We know that it saddens or welcomes the furious side in us deep down, but don’t give them that!
Try to answer calmly about your situation that led you to their comment. One important thing to remember is that they don’t mean to hurt your feelings; it’s just how they were accustomed!
“Why are you chubby now?”
“Yes, because I am happy, uncle.”
“Yup, because I love to eat my mom’s delicious foods!”
4. “Have You Got a Job? Why aren’t You Working Yet?”
If our late-night overthinking session is enough, some of our relatives will bring that topic to the table! What makes it even worse is that it usually continues with a comparison between you and relatives of the same age—no need to worry, though, because we’ve got you covered.
This question is rooted to know about your accomplishments and prestige; make sure you answer it as simple as possible and without hesitation, so they don’t look down on you! Whether you already have a job during that time, make sure to think fondly of the company you’re working for; we don’t want your family to think wrong of it. If you don’t have a job yet, relax! Tell them that you’re working your best on it or have other interests you want to pursue just yet.
“Have you got a job?”
“I am still looking for a job. Please pray for me auntie, hopefully I can get one soon.”
“Yes, I’ve already applied for a job. I’m currently waiting for interviews.”
“I don’t think I’ve found the one that suits my passion. I’m still looking for it.”
5. “When are You Getting Married?”
Don’t think you’re safe when you already have a date to attend! After they have your partner’s name, this question is bound to be asked.
Your life choice is not to satisfy or prioritize their needs, so don’t think too hard about answering this! If you’re secretly planning without making a big deal, nod politely and ask for blessings. If marriage is not on your five-year plan, tell them you’re working the best for yourself.
“When will you get married?”
“I’m still focusing on building my career, auntie.”
“Just pray for me, hopefully I’m financially and mentally prepared!”
“I really want to get married auntie, do you have acquintances who’s still single?”
6. “When are You Going to Have a Child?”
Newlyweds, toughen up! The family pressure is immense on this one particular question. You might automatically shudder and look into your partner’s eyes with discomfort, but you shouldn’t as we will help you answer it with manner.
Be genuine and be clear! If there are medical complications, tell them. Don’t hesitate to say to them and ask for blessings if you are trying for one. Lastly, if it hasn’t been on your plan, just take it out lightly and change it to another subject. Harmless jokes that will never hurt anybody!
“When will you have a kid?”
“It’s a secret! Not gonna tell you :)”
7. “Do You Bring Any Gifts for Me or Your Relatives?”
Coming back home to a packed house without bringing any gifts will give you this common question. They will most likely be awkward once they see that your hands are empty, but it’s fine! Traveling back home already costs you so much; if bringing more gifts burdens your pocket, you don’t have to force it.
Once again, a joke is the best way to make your way out of these questions. Just say that your baggage is full, or it got left out at the store, or perhaps promise them some ice cream for a treat? Ultimately, it’s your choice, t-mates!
“Where’s the gift?”
“My suitcases are full, Auntie.”
“I’ll send it for you later, okay?”
“I’ll just treat you here, how about that, Auntie?”
8. “When Will You Graduate?”
Third-year students living in the family will want to run from this one or stay cool with AirPods on their ears. While this question doesn’t intend any harm, a person working on their final paper will indeed feel the trigger being asked of it. Keep calm and hide the snarly eyes with this answer!
Answer and avoid. If the topic is a huge deal in your mind at the moment, answer it quickly and clear it up immediately. Say that you’re working your best on it and will finish it ASAP. If you’re pursuing other things in your study, say so and end that statement clearly to avoid any further questions. Good luck, hope this works, t-mates!
9. “How much is your salary now?”
If you’re not comfortable mentioning it, just give them something to picture. Not quite specific but leave something to satisfy them because, in the end, they just want to get to know your life updates and make sure you’re doing fine.
“When will you graduate?”
“Yes… after I finish my thesis, Uncle.”
“Just pray for me. Do you want to offer me a job, Auntie?”
10. “How Much THR Do You Get This Ramadan? Can I Get THR from You?”
It’s not Ramadan without THR being asked and spread around; it’s hard to admit that whatever our age or our position right now, we will still gladly accept THR from relatives or even the workplace. When asked for the nominals, it tends to get awkward to answer, right? Relax, we’ll help you along~
When asked by younger relatives, just play it along! They don’t understand the concept of THR yet, so make it fun for them. If the older relatives ask, just joke it around that it’s not enough so they need to give more, hehe… Don’t take it too seriously, okay, t-mates!
“How much THR did you get? Can I get THR from You?”
“Do you want THR? Just open the tiket.com application to get THR so that your Ramadan and Eid will be more cheerful!”
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That’s it for our bulletproof answers to all the questions coming your way; hope you use it well and make it a good time for everyone!
Just remember that in this holy month, you only want to spend your family gatherings with a big smile and a happy tummy, not frowns and a sick stomach.
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